Why Contemplate Your Death? I've long been aware of the aeons-old-advice from many spiritual traditions... that it is "useful and good to contemplate ones eventual death 5 times a day". To fear death can cast a long long shadow in ones life, can get in the way of us living in ways that lead to greater ease and enjoyment. To accept and learn to live with this means that life can open up with a greater vividness and beauty... the great gift of impermanence: reminding me of the sand manadalas created by Tibetan buddhist monks... Anyways, I remembered recently that I had this (free) app on my phone which is a gentle and thoughtful way to support this practise. It basically just spits out a quote 5 random times during the day - I don't read them all. They are 'thoughtful' rather than scare-mongering. Some are poetic. They all make me think. I've popped it on the front screen again of my iPhone once again, and I've really been enjoying it. Here's the link if you want to give it a try too. https://www.wecroak.com/ WeCroak... great name. So true. Hilary |
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NATTO: Not Attached To The Outcome! How hard is that to do? Actually it's impossible... but it's that does not mean that this is not a good thing to try and get better at; as I believe that the tightly we hold onto attachments leads to a great deal more suffering.. whatever it is, sleep or the multitude of other things we get stuck on being attached about! Right at the heart of NATTO is Flexibility. I've come to know that rigidity also leads to suffering - both in our bodies and also in our minds. So, although this video has been created for people with sleeping problems / insomnia, I found it to be really valuable for the very many situations I find myself in where I want whats happening to be different. What outcomes are you too attached to? And... if you're looking for some good strategies around Insomnia, give it a look! | | |
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If you have trouble sleeping, here is another useful resource to check out: Dr Andrew Huberman, Stanford Neuroscientist, has collected all his best tips on getting a good nights sleep. |
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The image above made me smile. Yes, there's a real truth to this! But let's not forget: we need each other. We need to ask for help. We need to connect. Learning to do these things is an important part of successful adulting. However we, ourselves, are always remain at the centre of being the most powerful leader in whatever changes we desire to make in our lives. Personal Accountability & Leaning into Support - a powerful team. Perhaps we might call this Interdependence |
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Four Quick Strategies to Resolve Couple Conflict ~ PACT Institute All couples fight at one time or another. If you think you should never argue, you’re unrealistic. A more productive goal is to learn how to quickly and efficiently resolve your disagreements. When there's distress in your relationship, you want to move promptly to make things better and reassure each other that you’re in this together and you have each other’s back. Here are four ways to resolve relationship conflict quickly and reduce relationship distress: | | |
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If you would like to delve a bit deeper into developing self-like, how about listening to a 9 minute talk on developing SELF-FRIENDLINESS as a position to take in life. Feels like a doable thing, yes? Click below to listen. |
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The One Question We Need to Ask Ourselves When We Feel Anxious ~ 4 minute watch The one important question that lies at the heart of this short presentation feels really, really, really useful. Even so-called 'negative' feeling states like Anxiety are there to protect us. Are you willing to wonder what yours is protecting you from? Take a look at this short video and see what questions emerge for you. | | |
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How To Forget What You Read ~ 8 min listen Another in a series of short talks by Oliver Burkeman... I liked this a lot! As a self-confessed info-addict, I have often berated myself for not being able to remember everything I read. "Where does it all go?" I wonder,.. and worry; wishing I had a better handle on it all. I found this talk very comforting and relaxing and it's helped me to trust that it's really ok to read & forget, just as much as it's ok to read & remember. (There's also some cool thoughts in here for those who like to take notes as they read - I am one of them too!). | | |
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