There are compelling reasons to make this effort: when people feel seen, they can be encouraged to bring their best self to school. Authentic, connected, psychologically safe individuals are more likely to take risks in their teaching, in conversations with colleagues, and in wider school leadership initiatives. We can get frustrated when people don’t ‘step-up’ but unless we demonstrate our curiosity to understand their perspective, we may in fact be blocking that potential. Naturally, where a person feels valued, they gain a sense of belonging and are more likely to commit to a role and organisation. In addition, by helping colleagues gain confidence in sharing their thoughts and feelings, as my HOD did for me, you are nurturing a future authentic leader.
Maybe you are slightly fearful of probing behind the mask: What if it reveals more work to do or challenging conversations to have? What if they get tearful or angry, or over-reliant on me when I’m already so busy?
But our question to you is: What will most likely happen if you don’t encourage them to open up?
“My coach left lots of space for me to think about what I wanted to say, and listened to understand rather than to react to what I was saying.” – Leadership Edge Foundation Stage Participant
Over Christmas, colleagues have hopefully been able to reconnect with their authentic, private selves. And so, before they slot back into that comfortable place behind the mask, can you encourage them to bring that ‘humanness’ into school to create warmth and diversity of thinking within your staff voice?
Instead of “Did you have a good Christmas?”, we invite you to consider some different questions:
How did you spend your holidays?
How are you feeling about being back at school?
What’s most on your mind for this half-term?
The core issue here is whether we are ready, as leaders, to take off our own masks and show that we truly do care about the people we are privileged to lead, “The leaders who get the most out of their people are the leaders who care most about their people” (Simon Sinek). And making time for a human conversation seems a pretty good place to start.
Wishing you, and your colleagues, a genuinely happy 2023.