Oftentimes, we hold onto feelings. We hold onto things that other people do or say that make us feel upset. The first thing to know is that you have no control over what another person says, does or doesn’t do. If you are holding onto negative feelings in your life from someone who has caused you pain… you need to learn to forgive.  

The definition of forgiveness is releasing the feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group that has harmed you. How I was taught about this would be simply defined as to stop feeling angry and resentful. If you have the question “Do I want to forgive this person?” you can rephrase to say “Do I want to stop feeling angry and resentful?”

If the answer is yes, you have the power to forgive in the way you think now. When you make the conscious choice to think "I forgive" you get to feel at peace. The action of forgiving someone is for YOU and not the other person. If you think that staying angry at the other person is going to punish them, you have it all wrong.

I want you to picture what anger and resentment feels like within you. When you decide not to forgive someone, that is what YOU get to feel. The only person that experiences your emotions is you. The other person can experience the interpretation of your behavior, but never your emotion. You can think about what that other person did to you and I promise that has no power over you now.

 Ultimately, you do not need to tell someone you forgive them. That is not how you experience forgiveness. Forgiveness is always defined by the way you feel.

As you apply forgiveness to other people, you also get to practice on yourself. You can choose to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for anything in the past that is holding you back. You have control of your mind and how you think about any situation in your life. That is the forgiveness mindset.

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