Let's face it, worry can take hold of all of us even when we least expect it. I know it can do a number on me as I lie in bed at night and think about all the things I need or want to do.

Worry stems from a feeling of wanting to be in control. It is a very active and sometimes relentless emotion. Imagine a rocking chair; you are constantly moving, but you never get anywhere.

We know that worries are often bigger in our heads than they really are. They fuel each other and merge and the next thing you know, you are thinking, "I won't even have time to brush my teeth tomorrow morning!"

This summer while facilitating my boot camp groups, I have learned a lot about what teenagers, particularly those transitioning from middle school to high school and high school to college, worry about most. This list includes-

• How can I get my work done? What if it's too hard?

• How will I fit in and find my friend group?

• I am not happy with the way I look.

• How can I deal with homesickness?

• What If I can't stand my roommate?

• I'm afraid to join clubs and try out for teams.

• How do I talk to my teachers/professors?

The girls I have worked with this summer have learned tools and strategies for managing their worries. Together, we have also worked on strategies for time management, problem solving and stress relief. Finally, we have talked about embracing the discomfort that accompanies change, even positive change. Yes, believe it or not, you can make friends with your worries!

The summer is not over. Reach out if you would like to learn more about how your daughter can start managing her worries so she can get up out of that rocking chair, shift her mindset, and proceed with confidence and a plan for the new school year ahead. ginnymoylan@findingyourfirefly.com

Making the Transition from High School to College Group

I am looking for groups of 3 to 4 teens who want to participate in an accelerated, boot camp-style program to prepare for the transition from Middle School to High School or High School to College. 

The group will determine the specific topics for the sessions and mutually agree on the best times to meet. We can complete the sessions in a week, or over the course of a few weeks.

This is an opportunity for the girls to learn skills and shortcuts for easing their transition. They will also have the chance to participate in inspired conversations, learn from each other, and build a support network that they can rely on even though they may be attending different schools in the fall.