When you were a child, things were done for you. As you grew , the adults in your life slowly stopped doing those things as you gradually took over for yourself.
Eventually, you were left to do everything on your own.
How did you compensate for that transition?
If you're like most, you did one of two things:
You turned to other people to help create the comfort and security you once received from your caregivers.
OR
You released the caregivers in your life, deciding to do everything yourself and stopped asking for help from those around you altogether.
Both of these are natural and normal;
but I'm curious about the part of you who still needs supervision;
the part who looks outside of yourSelf for answers,
the part who depends on advice and the opinions of others to make daily and even lifely decisions.
Becoming a self-parent is essential to your continued development.
When you are able to care for yourself in times of stress, distress, or unease, you are able to acknowledge and honor your own truth which is essential to create the life of your dreams.
What is Self-parenting?
Self parenting is acknowledging your feelings and your own capabilities.
Self-parenting is self-reliance.
Self-parenting is trusting yourself to land on both feet even when things didn't go as intended.
Self-parenting is recognizing what feels really good to YOU.
Self-parenting helps you realize when you actually need assistance,
and self-parenting helps you take steps toward obtaining that assistance.
Imagine a child who is in distress:
How would you treat the child?
What would you say to them?
Would you tell them to ask their friends what they would do in the situation?
Would you tell them to buck up and get back to work?
Would you hold them and listen to how they feel about their situation?
Would you be compassionate, kind, silly, or playful?
How do you know when a child is soothed?
How do you listen to a child?
Now, name a situation you're facing right now:
What advice would you give to YOUR child if s/he came to you?
Asking yourself these questions can help you understand and honor what you actually need to support yourself. Self-parenting is an important role that helps you recognize when you truly need support from the people around you; when it would benefit you to hire support from a trusted therapist, coach, yogi, or other; and when you can work toward self-trust, understanding, and listening to your own internal guidance all on your own. Because I believe what they say is true: Seek Within. (Only you know your own truth.)
