So, was there a spark between you two? As I answer this question, I sigh because there was but there also wasn’t. This romantic spark that we all talk about so much, what even is it? The spark has a lot of lore around it to the point that it feels almost mythical. I know it’s not mythical though because I’ve felt the spark before. It does exist but, is it what I am supposed to look for?
A spark, a quick fleeting burst of energy. Something mesmerizing to experience because it goes out nearly as quickly as it forms. A spark is something that I find addicting to chase because it is stunning. Look at sparklers - they are so fun to light and dance with but, they go out within minutes. How is a romantic spark any different? A spark is a spark, after all, it comes and goes quick. While I keep hoping and looking for a spark, I begin to think is that even sustainable?
I have had many dates that existed exactly like a sparkler. Fun, bright, flashy, quick. There was a timeline on it and then poof, there was no spark left. Nothing to light and nothing to fuel a romantic fire. We had a connection on that date but it wasn’t able to transcend past that. It was a bright flame but, as the old saying goes the brighter the flame, the quicker it burns. Even understanding this, I am still looking for that spark, that firework moment. I am because it is beautiful but, I am also looking for someone who can provide fuel that is sustainable to keep that flame burning.
A spark is just the start. What a spark needs is its partner in crime, surprise, it’s fuel, it’s reason to burn. Surprise. Surprise is something that catches you off guard, makes you have to think on the spot, and takes you off the script you had planned in your head. Surprise has the power of intrigue, it can make me want to come back, learn more, experience more. Surprise brings my mind to the conversation that my heart started. And when surprise and the spark combine just right, then I think that romantic connection can truly thrive.
Surprise, that is what I hoping to find. I am sure I will experience many sparks going forward but, I’m looking to find my fuel for that spark, my surprise.