Tired in ALL the Ways

• You might be feeling a lot of exhaustion - emotional and physical

• There is a pause and space here before action, room to let things settle

• The invitation right now is to notice any quick impulses, and move into reflection first

• Give yourself more time than you're used to process, review and contemplate

After many months of feeling like I was fighting the big slow down, this month seems to have finally showed me how to slow down in a deeper way. It may have only been for a few moments at a time, but I felt like I could quiet my mind, still my body, and just sink into the quiet, dark space that was calling me.

Part of this came from feeling just so worn out from all the change and growth that I've been going through. It was a necessary pause. But there was also an awareness of wanting to change patterns in my life, and needing the extra time to be able to choose a new path.

When we're trying to grow or change patterns, we're looking to extend the space between stimulus and response - we NEED the slowness. It's uncomfortable and unfamiliar to choose a new response, so without a BIG pause, we will default back to the standard reaction.

Can you see this call to slowness as a HUGE opportunity to make those changes and new choices that you've been calling in?

Allowing More Surrender & Detachment

• The last couple years have shown so many of us that even our best laid plans mean very little in the face of an uncertain world

• We are being asked to allow things to unfold as they are meant to, and in doing so, to allow the magic

• We are learning to manage our ability to keep trusting, even as the details keep changing

• This is here to strengthen our core and help us work with our ability to trust

• We can see where our mind goes, and learn to calm it down from overprocess and overthinking

I don't know if there have been many times in my life where I feel so uncertain about where I'm going. I see multiple paths laid out in front of me, but have no idea which one will actually come to pass.

This uncertainty is throwing me for a loop, have no doubt about it! There have been many powerful waves of fear as I try to find certainty in this completely uncertain situation.

And yet, this month, with my increase in ability to slow down, I'm also seeing an increase in my ability to tolerate this uncertainty. To truly trust that whatever happens, it will be for my greatest good. And that the visions of different futures that float through my mind aren't places to attach my safety.

This is a great time to reflect on how you handle uncertainty in your life. What practices do you have that help you progress to feeling empowered and strong in your core when you can't yet see how things are going to unfold?

This month for me has been a lot about coming back to my breath, and bringing my awareness into my heart. These small little practices bring me back to the present moment to see just how ok things actually are. In fact, they're often quite wonderful!

Finding More Clarity

• In this slow down, there is more clarity around old wounding and patterns that are present

• We can also gain more clarity on the source of these wounds

• There's an ability to see that these things are patterns, but they aren't us

• We are seeing more choices as possible, more truths coming to light, more fears brought to the surface

• You may find yourself in a place of greater conviction of who you are and what you need because of this new clarity

• There's a sense of committing to changing it, whether you know how to yet or not
   

   

One of the greatest skills that I've developed in my growth journey has been the ability to separate myself from my thoughts.

This might seem like either an obvious statement (you are not your thoughts) or it might seem like a mind-blowing revelation. Honestly I still have MANY days where I am reminded of this and it shakes me out of over-identifying with the negative voices in my head.

One of the most helpful ways that I've been able to understand and work with this concept came from my therapist - she likened the experience of consciousness to a car. For myself, there is a voice of anxiety in my head all the time, and often I am letting it drive the car. When that's happening I feel as though I am my anxiety.

But when I can consciously move that anxiety into the passenger seat, I can separate from it and understand that I am more than the anxious voice.

Once we can separate our identity from the patterns and wounds and inner-voices that we all experience, we gain SO much more agency in our life. We can make choices from a more grounded place, and see so much possibility that wasn't possible before.

What are patterns or voices that you're now noticing aren't actually who you are? What choices are possible to you when you realize you are so much more than those?

This is a time of deep feeling and deep work, and that sometimes feels heavy and lonely. Ask yourself where you can let go and allow, in order to bring some ease and light into your life.

Where can you surrender expectations? Where can you trust that things will be ok?

And, perhaps most importantly, who can you surround yourself with, to help remind you when it all seems so uncertain?

Those people in your life who can keep breathing life and hope into your heart are more important than ever as we navigate these intense times, so make sure to reach out and keep intentionally creating that community! We all need it more than ever.

We hope you enjoyed this letter! If it resonated, please feel free to reply and share your reflections!

And if you feel like you could use some additional support during this month, reach out for a breathwork session with Krystal! Just reply to this email or book online here. 

Thank you for being here! We are so grateful to share this space with you!