Put Some Claws in Your Pause

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Dear Pausers,

 

Spring is in the air and, though it's months away, we're already thinking about our 2022 Retreat.

 

The 2022 Put Some Claws in Your Pause Retreat will be held in November. You can reserve your spot now or contact us with questions--launchyourpause@gmail.com. On Sunday, March 13th, we'll host a Seward Park walk/chat with past and future "Pausers." See below for information on the retreat and the walk.

 

We'll leave you with these thoughts from Kate about the Menopause in the Matrix. We hope to see you on Sunday, March 13th for a relaxing, informational walk in the park.  

 

Warmly,

Laura & Kate

Menopause in the Matrix 

Kate Poux

My friend Lisa and I agree to disagree about The Matrix. I remember 20+ years ago when she complained about the fact that the rebels can figure out the complexities of jacking in and out of the Matrix but still have to eat tasteless gruel and wear tattered clothes. My husband and I are Matrix fans and have watched them all, many times together, happily suspending our skepticism for the particular sci-fi premise and dope kung fu. This past December, as I was rewatching all the Matrix movies in preparation for Resurrection to drop, I joked with Lisa about her plans to watch the new one. This time she complained most about the fact that Trinity has to play second fiddle to Neo in the first 4 movies. “Why doesn’t Trinity get to be the One?”. Hmmm. She made a good point. 

 

And then, like a glitch in the matrix, like reaching into a goopey liquid mirror, like puzzling over a rhyme from the Oracle,  it happened. It was revealed. Trinity, at age 52, the same age as me, is actually, the One. She’s the one who can fly, she’s the one who saves Neo and therefore the human colonies, she’s the one who tells the Analyst how it’s going to be. Maybe she was the One all along, or maybe she became it, realized it, only at this midlife moment. I choose to believe that Trinity becomes The One as part of her menopausal transformation. 

 

The menopause metaphors are all there: will she choose the red pill or the blue pill,  Trinity’s pent up anger and rage about the confines of life in the Matrix, the hot prickling sensation that something is very wrong, that we are not who we pretend to be, and radical change is necessary. Trinity’s liberators worry that she won’t take the red pill, that if given the choice to reject/abandon/destroy the conventional life that she is living in order to see the truth she will choose the blue pill and stay in the life society expects of her. Maybe embracing menopause is a red pill. It is the disruptive uncomfortable awareness that we are out of sync with the societal expectations for female youth, beauty  and responsibility. It is the acceptance that our true happiness might create rifts, disruptions in the course that we accepted for ourselves years ago. The blue pill is hiding it, ignoring menopause, denying the inauthenticity we perceive now. 

 

When Trinity accepts the “truth”, wakes up from her matrix coma, she transcends all past iterations of her brilliance. She is shining, calm, confident. In a 2021 New York Times interview with Carrie Ann Moss, she describes her 52-year-old embodiment of Trinity,  during the filming of Resurrection: “I laugh because at times I would just feel so cool, I got this. Someone would take a video and I’d look at it and be like, “Oh my god, I don’t look cool at all!” I would just have to constantly relax that part of my brain. I continually chose to know that I was going to be enough.” I am inspired by the wisdom of relaxing the part of my brain that says “You look stupid. You can’t do this. You are a loser.”  Maybe menopause is an invitation to strengthen this part of our brains. I don’t know kung-fu, but  I can  choose to know that I am enough, that I am the One. “Dodge this.”

Seward Park Walk/Chat

Sunday, March 13, 2022 10-11:30 am

Join us for a walk around Seward Park with past and future "Pausers." Bring your hat, gloves and thermos of tea. We'll walk around the park and chat. This is a great opportunity to learn more about our Put Some Claws in Your Pause Retreat and to meet other women who are interested in getting and giving support about the experience of menopause.

Email with questions: launchyourpause@gmail.com

Put Some Claws in Your Pause Retreat

Friday, November 11-Sunday, November 13, 2022

  This is the retreat you’ve been waiting for-- the spirited, creative, community-oriented celebration of the new you! Join us in this retreat to acknowledge the wisdom of this new era while honoring the paths we all took to get here.

This retreat is open to women in all phases of menopause. We will meditate, write, do yoga, and create individual and community experiences that truly highlight the significance and potential enlightenment that comes from the journey of menopause. 

If you are interested in holding your spot or have questions, please email us.

Full retreat cost including room and board- $750

Early Bird (before 8/1/22)- $675

Save your spot with $150

non-refundable deposit (balance goes toward full payment) 

 

 
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