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Step 7 - Humility

Tradition 7 - Responsibility

Step 7:  Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Right Actions

I’ve been reading and studying Steps Six and Seven in the past weeks. I’ve become particularly watchful and aware of my major character defects, and I truly believe I should take these Steps daily in order to keep working toward what Higher Power wants for me.

Recently, I was in the company of a colleague whom I admire and like; however, I felt envious of her. Here’s why: She has been on a diet for a number of months and has lost significant weight. She looked great and was still working the diet to reach her goal. She received a lot of attention, and all of a sudden I felt envious and (for some reason) “less than.” I had witnessed her physical recovery before, and was thinking, “I wonder if she’ll gain it all back again.” I felt shame for feeling this way, but I was able to talk about it with a fellow OA member.

I am happy for her success, and I will pray that she stays healthy and well. She has always treated me kindly and professionally. I had no reason to feel envy toward her, but my character defects do not discriminate; they pop up freely and with no advance warning. So I will continue to pray for knowledge of right actions to take and let HP “do his thing” with this one, in his time, not mine.

I pray each day to be willing to have defects removed. I list the defects I feel are strongest every morning when I write. I know, however, that HP picks the ones to address and puts people and situations in my path to help me practice new behaviors. Character defects will not go away until I learn and practice new ways to act. The more my actions fall into line with my intentions and my prayers, the closer I am to doing HP’s will for me.

I am constantly becoming more useful to HP and my fellows, which is the essence of Step Seven. I am humbly asking HP to remove my shortcomings, and it happens when my actions allow it to take place.

— Edited and reprinted from The Transformation newsletter, Central Ohio Intergroup, July 2010

Tradition 7:  Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

Strive to Give

I schlepped into my first OA meeting late and in dirty clothes, fearful of the people around me. I left early too. But I kept coming back, and eventually I found sanity, a benevolent higher power, and abstinence. I’ve recently become interested in exploring the Traditions at a deeper level. This is what Tradition Seven means to me.

I strive to give more than I take. I come to meetings to support the still-suffering through whatever forms their eating disorders take. I come to offer experience and hope, strength and compassion. And I reach out for support when I need it. Members in my meeting need to hear about the healing that is possible. I don’t dwell on the events of the week, wallow in self-pity, or detail the latest argument with a family member unless it underscores recovery. I bring the message to my meetings and the mess to my sponsor or another OA friend.

Being self-supporting means that I perform service at the meeting level and beyond when I have the time and resources. Somebody has to do it, so why not me? I learned that service providers will sometimes be criticized, but criticism doesn’t kill. I learned to step back from service when I took on too much and discovered that people still loved me. I took on tasks to learn them, not because I was already an expert, and taking these risks taught me faith, trust, and new skills.

Something as simple as decorating tables or carpooling with other members is a meaningful contribution. Volunteering at special events enriches my recovery: At a marathon lunch, I learned to design beautiful food trays from a member who catered professionally. At our region assembly, I was introduced to Robert’s Rules of Order, which now enables me to lead business meetings at work and at intergroup. And when I was a regional delegate, I learned to dance the Y.M.C.A. (and had a blast!) when I stayed for a convention.

The Seventh Tradition encourages me to be financially responsible for myself and to OA. I don’t expect my meetings to give me free literature or pay the rent without my help. I don’t expect a free ride. Whatever my circumstances, I can give something: time, talent, or money.

To be self-supporting means so much—it means making our own decisions with the help of our Higher Power and being grown up. So share what you know, share your hope and recovery, and support this life-enriching Fellowship.

— Cindy W., Wickenburg, Arizona USA