Mama Bear: One Black Mother's Fight for Her Child's Life and Her Own

Mama Bear: One Black Mother's Fight for Her Child's Life and Her Own

by Shirley Smith
Mama Bear: One Black Mother's Fight for Her Child's Life and Her Own

Mama Bear: One Black Mother's Fight for Her Child's Life and Her Own

by Shirley Smith

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Overview

“Brave. Compelling. Provocative. ” —Gabrielle Union Wade, actress and New York Times bestselling author

In this moving memoir, Shirley Smith, wife of NBA Champion and All-Star J. R. Smith, tells the story of giving birth to one of the youngest premature babies to survive—using her experience to heighten awareness of the crisis of Black maternal and infant health and pay tribute to Black women’s resilience.

Shirley Smith and her husband, NBA champion J. R. Smith, looked forward to the birth of their second child, Dakota, as they celebrated New Year’s Eve with family at home. After dinner, Shirley felt a sharp pain that worsened through the night. Only 21-weeks pregnant, she was in labor. Mama Bear is the story of her 141-day ordeal, from entering a hospital emergency room on New Year’s morning and giving birth to her premature newborn, to taking her daughter home for the first time the following May.

In telling her story, written with Zelda Lockhart, Shirley shines a spotlight on the dangers Black women face during pregnancy. Black mothers are twice as likely as their white counterparts to go into labor prematurely and lose their babies—and almost four times as likely to die giving birth. Neither socioeconomic status nor access to quality healthcare seem to matter. Tennis champion Serena Williams experienced life-threatening complications during childbirth, and Beyoncé suffered toxemia with her premature twins. 

Shirley chronicles the emotional and physical battle she and J. R. endured to save their daughter, and her continual struggles to support her family while nurturing herself. Like many Black women, Shirley was raised to believe that pain is a sign of weakness. The one who kept it together for everybody, she had always put herself second. She parallels this difficult journey to her childhood growing up with an addict mother, and having to raise herself and her brother from a very young age. 

A chronicle of pain, loss, and infidelity, Mama Bear is ultimately a story of love—a celebration of community, family, faith, healing, the maternal bond, and one woman’s indomitable spirit. 


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780063010789
Publisher: HarperCollins
Publication date: 09/14/2021
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 1,101,722
Product dimensions: 9.00(w) x 5.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Shirley Smith is CEO of My Kota Bear, a non-profit organization that brings awareness and support to NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) families. She travels and speaks on issues of Black female mortality and premature births to educate and encourage parents and offer guidance to women who have struggled with postpartum depression. She lives in New Jersey with her family.

Table of Contents

Introduction xi

Part I Maternal Instincts When Nothing Else Makes Sense 1

1 Kota Bear 5

2 Binge 19

3 A Baby Story 31

Dropping Jewels: Repairing Maternal Instincts Interrupted by Disease, Drugs, and Poverty 43

Part II Community as the Fish and the Loaves of Bread 47

4 Liquid Gold 51

5 Reaching Out to My Othermothers 57

6 Creating Community Through Social Media 67

Dropping Jewels: Advice for Families Who are Feeling Alone 75

Part III My God, My Faith 77

7 A Family That Prays Together 81

8 Custom-Fitting Faith for My Young Adult Years 91

Dropping Jewels: Keeping the Faith Through the Valley of Shadows 109

Part IV Therapy to Heal My Energizer Bunny 113

9 One Year, Two Babies 117

10 Doing What You Have to Do 125

11 Postpartum Times Two 131

Dropping Jewels: How to Turn Off the Energizer Bunny and Get Help 139

Part V Peeling Back the Layers 143

12 Girl Meets Boy 149

13 Seeking My Missing Father 157

14 Paternity Crossroads 163

15 True Father 171

Dropping Jewels: Create Tour Own Mold of a Good Father 181

Part VI A Retreat to Reconnect My Womb to My Body 185

16 Finding Myself and Mom in Red Rock 189

17 Closing the Gap 201

18 Dakota's Voice 207

19 My Voice and My Mother's Voice 217

Dropping Jewels: Reconnect to Heal from Loss 227

Acknowledgments 231

Resources 233

References 235

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