“Wow, you are so different from the last time I saw you. You’ve changed so much.”
Have I really changed that much? I mean, since you last saw me, I continued to grow. I continued to learn. I continued to experience the various things that life has to offer. How could I be the same person as I once was? I mean I have been living life and so much life happened. Why would I stay the exact same? I figured you aren’t the exact same person too. I mean you lived a life full of stories, good and bad, that shaped who you are. Don’t you think that happened to me too?
Yes, I am not the same exact person. But am I really that different from the person who you once knew? I think at my core, I’m the same after all. But perhaps the difference that you see as drastic is because you haven’t been around for all those small little moments. If you’re away for a while, those little moments add up and become big.
Think of a tree. As the seasons roll, the tree begins to bud which lets it bloom. Time continues to pass and the tree sheds and hibernates for a little. And then that repeats. You expect that to happen because you know what comes with the seasons. But with time, the trunk gets a little longer, the branches expand their reach, and the leaves hit slightly different each year. But, it happened bit by bit. Season by season. Year by year. If I didn’t see the tree for so long, it would look different because those bits add up. But, it is still the same tree. Like the tree, I grew the same. Bit by bit. Season by season. Year by year. But, I am still the same me.
I guess I have changed a lot. But like the tree, my roots are the same. I’ll branch out and find different ways to thrive over time. What I hope is that maybe you don’t just come back and see the change. I want you to understand the story, what happened in those seasons that made me grow. I want you to understand the moments that shaped me. The times I’ve laughed, cried, hurt, celebrated, challenged myself, learned, persevered, risked something, and grew just a little bit.
What I would really like is for us to not just see the drastic change we both went through. I would love for us to be there when each other grows. Then that change won’t feel really like change, will it?