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Let's talk about OVERCOMING

under-earning, under-performing & self-sabotage!

Thank you for choosing the Loving Leadership newsletter from Jessica Lightbourne Coaching as your go-to resource for personal and professional development! This month we are talking about OVERCOMING!

How do you OVERCOME your blocks?

We can come from only one of two places when we are leading (and we are all leaders of our lives):

Love or Fear

Spirit or Ego

Passion or Anxiety

Proactive or Reactive

At Cause or At Effect

Abundance or Scarcity

Self-determined or Dependent

Empowered or Disempowered

Creator or Victim (of Circumstances)

Once we become aware of the choice to come from love or fear, we become powerful. (By the way, few of us come from "love" all of the time. That's why we look to our heroes! That's why we look to the gurus! That's why we have coaches!)

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was the force of nature and inspiration that he was because he chose love, soul, creativity, passion, abundance, dignity and empowerment over fear, ego, reactiveness, scarcity and hate. His whole BEING was love.

Choosing love when you are experiencing fear or discomfort is courage (aka bravery) and is a foundational leadership competency, especially for top executives, but for everyone who wants to self-actualize. It is only through making brave moves and taking brave actions that we create change for ourselves, our loved ones, our teams, our communities and the earth.

This courage comes from a place of worthiness and self-value. This courage comes from a love of self. Many of us were not taught this in school and spend a whole lifetime not understanding why things don't get better.

Courage provides an avenue to an abundance mindset. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway allows you to get what you want, whether it be more money, more health or more free time (think boundaries!) to do what you want and need to do.

If your attention is constantly focused on what you don’t have or what hasn’t worked or how your dreams are ‘impossible’ or ‘too much work,’ this fear-based mindset will surely be a self-fulfilling prophecy. An abundance mindset is aware of what it already has and is grateful, it sees possibility in any situation, and its foundation is love and hope.

An abundance mindset sees collaboration over competition, generosity over stinginess, infinite thinking over finite thinking, both/and thinking over either/or thinking, creativity over stagnation. Make your daily practice one of abundance, gratitude and generosity. If money is a tool and your mindset determines how well you use it, an abundance mindset creates a financial reality that fully supports your ‘big, hairy, audacious goal.” This mindset is the foundation for health, wealth and top performance. With an abundance mindset you will start to earn what you are worth, perform at the top of your game, and free yourself from self-sabotage.

Below you will find some resources to help you personally and professionally to understand your fear and anxiety and, ultimately, overcome it.

Coaching Questions & Activities: 

Reflect or journal on the following questions to build some awareness about being just a little bit braver in your life:

• When did you feel most abundant? Do you remember when time felt limitless as a child? What changes in your life can you make to fully inhabit the present moment?

• What are things to empower you and remind you of your worth that you could do today, this week, this month?

• If you had all the money and time in the world, what would you be doing right now? Go do it. Take a baby step, especially if it feels uncomfortable.

• What are you not doing now that you would be doing if it didn’t have to be perfect?

• Take one thing and do it terribly on purpose. It can be a baby step. (Note that the world didn’t explode)

• Approach things that you do not have mastery over with a zen philosophy of “Beginner Mind”. You can do this with anything. When you are a beginner you don’t expect it to be perfect. You expect to fumble. Babies don’t come out of the womb walking and talking. Beginner mind makes the assumption that it will not be perfect and that practice is needed. People who have been touted as gifted and talented may need extra practice in this area because some things may have been easy to master, even in the beginning. Practice not being good at something and doing it anyway. It is an extremely important life skill to have.

• Read Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine, to understand how to manage your inner saboteurs.

• Read Getting Real: 21 Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life by Susan Campbell PHD to learn how to not let your ego and fear lead your life.

• Write or repeat these affirmations, inspired by the Positive Intelligence book

   

    

Don't Miss Out:

Join the CURATING ME 6 Month Program, starting on Feb 8th, recently featured in Bermuda's The Royal Gazette. If you would like to join, please do so soon to prevent disappointment. We will meet online once a month for 6 months (one extra session in the first month (TODAY at 8am) for orientation so you know what to expect). The sessions occur first Wednesday of the first full week in a month from 8 am until 9 am AST. Sign up here. Registration ends on February 5th.

What's in it for you?

• Take your goals and get supported to make them happen

• Create meaningful connections and get accountability

• Tools & Resources that help you stay motivated, accountable, and on track

• Learn how to deal with common blocks that stand in the way like:

• Overcoming time constraints

• Overcoming money concerns and constraints

• Personal saboteurs

• Looking at anything else that stands in YOUR way to get where YOU want to be

• Get a sneak-peek to my unreleased book

   

When?

First session - February 8, 2023 at 8 am AST

How much?

​Price:

$77 / month

Pay the full 6 months by Feb 5th and get 1 month for free

Sign up with a friend and get an $18 discount from the total price for both of you.

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