Chasing growth, humor, and grace with Dr. Glenn Doyle |
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WEEKLY RECAP October 12th - 18th, 2019 |
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Highlights from the Blog and Facebook |
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| | Saturday, October 12th (AM) Negative feelings are unpleasant enough. You don't need to exacerbate their negative impact on you by making them your reason for abandoning your plan for the day. The truth is, it's when we feel lousy that we most NEED our daily plan. | | |
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| | Saturday, October 12th (PM) Feeling bad does not mean you are failing. It doesn't mean you're necessarily making progress, either. There are many different kinds of pain. Some are productive and necessary; some are pointless and just a bummer; some are a combination thereof. | | |
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| | Sunday, October 13th (AM) For many (in fact, most) situations, the name of the game is adaptability and flexibility. Don't get too attached to one plan, one approach, one strategy, even one philosophy. Be prepared to roll with the punches and adapt when you need to. | | |
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| | Sunday, October 13th (PM) Remember that no one who offers you advice is going to be omniscient. No one knows all the very personal stakes and variables involved in a situation as well as you do. No one is the expert on your life, your values, and your goals...but you. | | |
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| | Monday, October 14th (AM) You are not what you produce or achieve. What you produce and achieve in life will vary according to dozens of variables--some of which are in our control, many of which are not. | | |
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| | Monday, October 14th (PM) Everything you've ever learned that helps you cope with your emotions and function in the everyday world...absolutely "counts." Take a minute. Review and remember what you know. | | |
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| | Tuesday, October 15th (Blog) "THE TRUTH ABOUT TOOLS AND SKILLS." Engaging a skill or tool isn’t like flipping a light switch. It’s rarely an all-or-nothing proposition. This DOESN’T, however, mean that developing and using skills and tools is pointless. | | |
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| | Tuesday, October 15th (PM) Challenging yourself is important. We grow when we work to overcome challenges. It's kind of the only time we DO grow. That said: you don't want every minute of every day to be a challenge. You don't want every task to represent a mountain that needs climbing. The truth is, there are time for challenging yourself...and there are times for baby steps. | | |
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| | Wednesday, October 16th (AM) When at all possible and practical: avoid situations where your recovery might be at risk. Don't try to be a hero. Don't try to prove how "tough" you are by exposing yourself to triggers or temptations. Just don't. You don't have ANYTHING to prove to anyone. | | |
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| | Wednesday, October 16th (PM) Relax. Take a deep breath. Let it out slowly. Now take another one. Humor me. You are as strong as you are. And you're as weak as you are. No blame, no shame. The only thing that matters is whether your recovery is intact. THAT has to be your priority--all day, every day. | | |
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| | Thursday, October 17th (Blog): “IF YOU'VE BEEN ABUSED OR TRAUMATIZED...” You need to know that a lot of people who have survived abuse and trauma feel those things. You need to know that you are not alone. If you’ve been abused or traumatized, you need to know that you will not feel those things forever. | | |
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| | Thursday, October 17th (PM) Cultivating a support network can definitely be rough. It requires us to take some risks, and work on the awkward skills of seeing and adhering to boundaries. I'm not saying it's easy. But the alternative--just living in your own head, day after day--just doesn't work in the long term. Our head plays tricks on us. We need external relationships to reality test our emotions, reactions, and perceptions. | | |
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| | Friday, October 18th (AM) Every day is a bit of an unknown when it comes to what we'll have to work with. We need to hedge our bets by developing and practicing so many tools and skills that we're not at the mercy of what we do or don't have on any given day. | | |
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| | Friday, October 18th (PM) Give yourself a break. Yes, we need to find ways to manage our relationship with substances and behaviors that eventually hurt us...It STILL doesn't make you a bad person for merely CRAVING them. | | |
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Newsletter created by Susan Michelle. |
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