Chasing growth, humor, and grace with Dr. Glenn Doyle |
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WEEKLY RECAP November 16th-22nd, 2019 |
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Highlights from the Blog and Facebook |
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| | Saturday, November 16th (AM) When you're having a flashback, what's happening is, your past is trying to hijack your present. The only way to keep your past from hijacking your present when you're having a flashback, is to stay in touch with the present-- in any way you can. | | |
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| | Saturday, November 16th (PM) When you're struggling with intrusive thoughts, you need to make those thoughts themselves your cue to go into rehearsed responses. You never know when those intrusive thoughts are going to hit you-- so you can't usually head them off. | | |
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| | Sunday, November 17th (AM) You’re not going to regret making a plan for how to handle a rough night. You’re not going to regret keeping track of the skills you’ve learned and the tools you’ve acquired. You’re not going to regret reviewing that list of tools and skills often, to remind you of what all you have to work with. You’re not going to regret getting a little more rest. | | |
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| | Sunday, November 17th (PM) You are not in a war with yourself. Or, at least, you don’t need to be. All the parts of you— even the ones that seem to nudge you toward self-sabotaging behaviors— are TRYING to help. You want them cooperating with you— not battling against you...Your inner life doesn’t have to be a war, and you don’t have to be a warrior. | | |
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| | Monday, November 18th (AM) No therapy work you ever do will make it like the trauma didn’t happen. That’s a rough truth, but it’s one we have to embrace. What happened, happened. We went through what we went through. We have the scars we have. But those scars are our past. They don’t have to be our future. | | |
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| | Monday, November 18th (PM) You might have forgotten who you are, outside of your pain. It happens. When people have been suffering over a long period of time — with PTSD, with depression, with anxiety, with addiction — they necessarily devote a great deal of focus and energy every day to just coping. | | |
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| | Tuesday, November 19th (Blog) "WHEN YOU RELAPSE…EVEN AFTER A LONG PERIOD OF STABILITY." There are a lot of reasons why we might relapse after a period of stability or recovery— even a long period of stability or recovery. The key, as always, is not to let a relapse freak us out. | | |
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| | Tuesday, November 19th (PM) It’s a drag when we get let down. It can be disheartening, demoralizing, infuriating, even devastating, depending on the situation...None of it is reason to harm yourself. None of it is reason to throw out your hard work or progress. We can be disappointed, angry, or sad…but still move forward. | | |
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| | Wednesday, November 20th (AM) Small changes, over time, change everything. In fact, small changes over time are kind of the only way anything reliably changes. | | |
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| | Wednesday, November 20th (PM) When people have good models and mentors, they learn how to do things they didn’t know how to do— behaviorally and emotionally. | | |
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| | Thursday, November 21st (Blog): “YOU'RE WEAK, I'M WEAK, WE'RE ALL WEAK - AND THAT'S OK.” So many of us have been conditioned, over and over and over again, to hide our “weakness” from the world. | | |
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| | Thursday, November 21st (PM) Developing the ability to be patient; to outlast the rough spots; to stay on course, even when you’re getting pushed and pulled and bullied…that’s the kind of skill we’re looking to build. It’s not glamorous. It’s not sexy. It’s not profound. But it will keep you alive. | | |
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| | Friday, November 22nd (AM) Try as we might, we can’t filter out every unhelpful influence in our lives. We’re GOING to be exposed to some personalities, some news, some propaganda, that isn’t going to help us move toward our goals or live our values. | | |
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| | Friday, November 22nd (PM) Think of the most together, most emotionally healthy person you know. I guarantee that person has had moments in their lives where they’ve reacted impulsively in a way they regretted later. | | |
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Newsletter created by Susan Michelle. |
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