Chasing growth, humor, and grace with Dr. Glenn Doyle |
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WEEKLY RECAP November 23rd-29th, 2019 |
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Highlights from the Blog and Facebook |
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| | Saturday, November 23rd (AM) Those things we’re recovering from — trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, whatever — have a way of making us feel very isolated. Because we’ve felt so isolated for so long, sometimes we feel very ready to bond with others who are recovering from similar things. | | |
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| | Saturday, November 23rd (PM) When you’re triggered, all of your senses are hyper focused on the thing that you (or some part of you, anyway) thinks is most relevant to your survival. It’s not as if you’re CHOOSING to direct your senses in those moments; your sympathetic nervous system and amygdala have kind of hijacked the bus for a minute. | | |
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| | Sunday, November 24th (AM) Anger can definitely hijack our nervous system for a minute and short circuit rational thinking. There’s a reason why we shouldn’t drive or make decisions while angry. | | |
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| | Sunday, November 24th (PM) We’re really are influenced by the people we hang out with. Their moods, their behaviors, their perspectives— and their unresolved emotional conflicts, their addictions... | | |
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| | Monday, November 25th (AM) Your motivation for different tasks is going to vary— and that’s okay. Nobody is completely motivated all the time, for every single task. | | |
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| | Monday, November 25th (PM) You don’t “owe” anyone a particular emotional response. We get repeatedly hit over the head with how we “should” feel... | | |
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| | Tuesday, November 26th (Blog) "WHY SO MANY 'GURUS' TREAT YOU LIKE YOU'RE STUPID." The job of a true guru, mentor, or guide is to help us shatter those negative self-beliefs by reminding us who we really are and what we’re really all about…and that does not include making us feel worse so we’ll “buy in” to the guru’s approach to begin with... | | |
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| | Tuesday, November 26th (PM) Maybe you weren’t seen enough growing up. I know, everybody is seen, physically. But I mean really “seen.” Seen as more than just a body taking up space. Seen as more than a needy presence. Seen as more than an inconvenience or a puzzle. Many struggles we have as adults are hooked back into feeling unseen by important people earlier in our lives. | | |
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| | Wednesday, November 27th (AM) Therapy and recovery is not about making you immune to feeling bad. Nothing short of brain surgery will make you immune to feeling bad. | | |
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| | Wednesday, November 27th (PM) There are lots of reasons why we care— almost to the point of obsession— about what others think of us, what others say about us... | | |
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| | Thursday, November 28th (Blog): “BEING GRATEFUL 'ENOUGH'” There are a lot of people who assume that, if we acknowledge pain in our lives, or if we are observably affected by past or present “trauma,” that we are somehow “ungrateful.” Let me tell you what nobody told me: you can be both wounded and grateful. The fact that you have things to be grateful for does not mean you’ll never struggle— or that it’s somehow wrong or distasteful to acknowledge you are struggling. Gratitude and pain are not mutually exclusive. | | |
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| | Thursday, November 28th (PM) No matter how well Plan A is going — we still need a Plan B. No matter how long it’s been since our last relapse — we still need a safety plan. You’d be amazed at how many smart, resilient people get it in their heads that, after they’ve had some success in therapy or recovery, they don’t need to plan to manage stressors, triggers, and cravings anymore. EVERYBODY has to have a plan to handle stressors, triggers, and cravings. You need a plan. I need a plan. The most together, emotionally healthy person you know needs a plan. | | |
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| | Friday, November 29th (AM) Hey. You. Relax. I know, I know. We never just “relax” when we’re told to “relax.” But I mean in the bigger picture. | | |
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| | Friday, November 29th (PM) Trauma, abuse, and neglect is damaging enough when it’s inflicted upon us. We don’t have to inflict it on ourselves. | | |
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Newsletter created by Susan Michelle. |
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