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WEEKLY RECAP April 4th - 10th, 2020 |
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Highlights from the Blog and Facebook |
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| | Saturday, April 4th (AM) Even if that person is a close friend or family member, you CAN set boundaries. It might not feel great in the moment, and they’ll probably respond by ramping up the drama EVEN MORE…but you CAN hold firm. | | |
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| | Saturday, April 4th (PM) We need to be the same person in private that we are in public. If we’re putting on a mask for other people, our self-esteem’s going to notice. It’s hard to esteem ourselves when we’re inconsistent in who we are and what we value. | | |
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| | Sunday, April 5th (AM) If you value your relationships, take on the intimidating task of setting boundaries. Don’t let anyone try to convince you it’s easy— or unnecessary. | | |
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| | Sunday, April 5th (PM) One of the reasons it’s so important to “use our words” in defining and describing our struggle is because it’s hard to devise a strategy to overcome an abstract obstacle. | | |
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| | Monday, April 6th (AM) We THINK that going to extremes will increase our chances of success. “Failure is not an option” is a tantalizing fantasy. But we live in the real world here. | | |
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| | Monday, April 6th (PM) Our own appraisals of what we can and can’t do are totally skewed by our programming from the culture and the people around us— not to mention our own emotional baggage . . . | | |
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| | Tuesday, April 7th (Blog) "DON'T FALL INTO A THERAPY RUT." What is a rut? A rut is getting stuck. Getting stalled. Treading water. It happens to almost everyone at some point. You feel as if you’re not really making headway . . . | | |
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| | Tuesday, April 7th (PM) It can be really hard to put a train wreck day behind us sometimes. Train wreck days nag at us and unnerve us. Most of us have had the experience of a bad Monday setting the tone for an anxious, tense week. | | |
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| | Wednesday, April 8th (AM) When we’re depressed or overwhelmed, it gets very easy to forget that we have had times when we’ve felt good. There HAVE been times when we’ve felt competent. There HAVE been times when we’ve felt soothed. | | |
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| | Wednesday, April 8th (PM) Sometimes there are consequences to having been wrong that we need to accept— and a good gauge of how well our recovery is coming is our willingness to accept those consequences without flinching. | | |
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| | Thursday, April 9th (Blog): “BULLYING AND FORGIVENESS.” Here’s what I do know: the “me” of the past wouldn’t want the “me” of today to be held hostage to his pain. He wouldn’t want me to live in bitterness. He wouldn’t want me to hang on to resentment for the sake of honoring his pain. | | |
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| | Thursday, April 9th (PM) Patience isn’t a personality characteristic. It’s a skill. Patience is the skill of not freaking out when you’re not getting immediate results. You can become more patient, through practice. Getting more patient involves using ancillary skills, like distraction and mindfulness. Many of the things we think of as personality characteristics are actually skills. | | |
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| | Friday, April 10th (AM) Decisions made under duress tend to not be so great. When we’re making a decision because we’re feeling pressured or trapped, we’re usually not acting congruently with our values— we’re just trying to get rid of a bad feeling. | | |
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| | Friday, April 10th (PM) Many of us have struggled with controlling impulses in the past, which leads us to think that impulse control is a task that’s just beyond us most of the time. We actually control impulses all the time. | | |
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